Fear Confession: I Stopped Praying for Patience


A few years ago, while talking with a friend about prayer, she mentioned that she’d stop praying for patience because it seemed like all the bad situations sent her way seemed to work on her last nerves. The more I thought about it, the more I saw the truth in her statement. They say be careful what you wish pray for, you just may get it!

To a certain extent, the very things you need/want come by way of counterintuitive circumstances.

Want strength? Build it up by overcoming impossible hurdles that push you beyond what you thought you could do.

Want courage? Face challenges that are bigger than you and call you to step outside your comfort zone and at times stand isolated from the popular viewpoint. 

Want patience? Learn how to work through trying times alongside difficult people with oftentimes delayed rewards.

So I stopped asking for it. Yep. I know how impatient I am and I feared the stress and pain that came with excellent patience. Ignoring a weakness doesn’t make it go away. Avoiding the “negative” side of something doesn’t bring you closer to the positive results you truly desire. If anything, it brings on more anxiety.

Diving deeper into my bible, I realized I was focusing too much on the anguish of impatience and not the fruit of mature patience:

Galatians 6:9 – And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up.

Isaiah 40:31 –  But they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.

James 1:2-4 – …Count it all joy when you fall into various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience. But let patience have its perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing. 

Soak in those benefits of patience: rewarded, renewed and complete. Being driven by fear almost cost me everything!

I have learned, however, how to write and speak SPECIFIC PRAYERS. Not only do I pray for patience, but the power of love, faith and wisdom to act and respond in a way worthy of God 24-7.

I hope my testimony and these verses empower you to tackle your fears today and always :).

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